My girlfriend had a really tough childhood with her parents being evil and all.....one day after she got into a huge fight with them we were together and she was crying, I told her that I would marry her and "rescue" her from them. Mind you we were in our late teens then, but from that moment on we both knew it was a sure thing, and the rest is history.

A good friend of mine did a very, very romantic thing:

He and his girlfriend took the train out to Quebec City from T.O., got a really nice room in a chalet style hotel. He sent his girlfriend for a one hour spa treatment thing, and he pretended like he was just going to hang in the room and watch TV. When she returned he had laid rose pedals everywhere, lit about 50 candles, no exaggerating, and was down on one knee! The wedding is in eight months.

 

I did the whole down on one knee in her home, 2 problems. Her dad was mad I diden't ask his blessing< not mad so much as hurt. and she found out about the "ring" 6 months before that cause I was making payments on it and my best friend let it slip, but he never told me so I was the only one who thought it was a surprise.

oh ya when she told her mother the first words were" that better not be what I think it is"

granted she was 18 I was 19 but I had been working for 65,000 a year so I could afford to get married.

oh ya we lived togeather for 5 years after that before we got married. and I'd want my kids to do the same thing.

 

DWVW seems to be the most practical so far. i like that alot. makes the most sense to me to get married now days. Being that 'marriage' is nothing special now days and I personally would settle for common law and be much more comfortable with that than marriage, saving money on insurance makes a perfect sence to get involved.

 

Do you have a troubled love life or something? Or a not so special gf? [img]graemlins/dunno.gif[/img] whats your deal? There is a lot more to marriage these days than you obviously see man. To SOME its money to others its what its supposed to be under the law and in the bible. You take those vows personally not financially. Women like these things to be special as we remember them for the rest of our lives and it says a lot about who you are by how you propose believe it or not it does have something to do with our response to the question.

[ October 18, 2004, 09:32 AM: Message edited by: Z24 ]

 

i have been with the same girl for over 7 years now. seriouse relationship. so no i dont have troubled love life thank you. nothing makes me feel like she does. i just dont see all the hype about getting married.

is marrying a girl the only way u can prove your love to her? thats pretty stupid if u ask me.

 

Marriage just isn't for everyone man.

Which is totally cool. I see it as a way of showing my "eternal" love for my gf/wife and making the most serious commitment a person could make.

Other people just see it as a waste of money and kind of pointless because so many marriages end up in divorce.

People shoudl just do whatever they feel is right, if someone doesn't like it they can **** off. It's your life, not theirs

Oh, and about the whole "telling dad" first thing. I know that I would because I'm close with my dad.

Neither way is right or wrong. It's just the way each person decides to handle their own business.

 

I didnt mean to offend you there Yuli, JordyO has a good point marriage isnt for everyone. To some ppl its a big deal to some ppl its not for them simple as that. The reason i asked if you have problems with your love life is you seem to have a lot of negative views on some (not all) forms of committment. Sorry if I offended you man.

 

np.

and u are right i do have many negative views, i just hate life

 

Then off yourself.