maybe some one can help me out
09-01-2006, 10:47 PM
#1
maybe some one can help me out
hey guys here is the short story....
i have been with this girl for 2 years we have a son that is 4 months.
me and the girl lived together for 1.5 of the years we have been together as soon as we found out she was preg and when she told her parents... well they went nuts....
they came right over with bags for her to pack and never even banged on my front door they just walked right in and told her to start packing...
thru the 9 months of preg she was not aloud to come over to see me or anything..we are both 21yo i have my own place
so i found that kinda wierd....
so the baby is born.... i got to the hospital before her parents.... when her parents got there they did not want me there ... they even went thru the trouble to get a secuity officer to come to the room to ask me to leave but i had already had my bracet put on by the hospital stuff showing that i am the father... her parents lied to thesecuity officer and told him that i was not the father and that i was a EX boyfriend that will not go away....
well after i freaked out cus i did not sleep for almost 2 days at this piont and the secuity officer put the cuffs on me cus i freaked. my girlfriend freaked on her parents and the secuity officer and then told the secuity officer that i am the real boyfriend and the father of the kid so the secuity officer took the cuffs off...
that was 4 months ago.....
the baby and my girl friend live at her parents cus i did not have a job when the baby was born cus i was layed-off from my job a week before...
well i have been working now for a month and a haft and got my rent all payed off and bills payed off.. so i still have my own place....
so earlyer this week me and the girlfriend talk about her and the baby comeing over for the weekend and she says sure ...
she and the baby come over and everything is going good till about 45 min ago...
my girl friend starts crying like a baby and tells me that she told her parents that she was comeing over here for the weekend and they freaked on her. told her that i am a no good for notting father. and they got in to a huge fight and she just left and came over here...
so i tell her that maybe she should call her mom and talk..
she calls and her mom says that she is gonna call the cops and tell the cops that i am beating my son unless my girlfriend and the baby go back to her parents place right this second...
sorry guys i will try to shorten this
well her parents show up at my door again about 45 min ago and demand that she and the baby go with them..... i say no i am the father and i want to spend time with my son..
they say ok then we will call the cops and tell them that i am beating the kid...
i almost lose it again cus this time they say that to my face...
i am holding my son and her mom comes over and trying to grab my son and i say no get off me and my son in a yelling voice her mom slaps me in the face and then says that she is calling the cops i told her to go for it cus i have the hand print on my face...
so the cops get here and ask what all happend i told them the truth but her parents said that i was beating the kid that is why i was slaped...
so that cops were gonna put the cuffs on me and then my girlfriend tell the cops the truth about what really happend...
the cops dont put the the cuffs on me and ask if i want to press charges on my girlsfriends mother......
i said no cus i know it would cus more problems then what it is worth...
so the cops ask that i let my son go back with my girlfriend and her parents and that we meet up at a timmies or some thing to talk everything out....
in the 4 months that my son has been born i have only seen him a few dozon times.. pretty much use to go over after work and stuff to see my son when my girlfriends parents where not home... well now her mom stays home all the time so i am not aloud over....
i think all this is cus i am a german and they are from poland and some thing about hitler and all that crap...
i think that i am gonna go to the courts to get spilt custidy of my son...
and breaking it off with my girlfriend and her family
how do i go about doing that.......????
do i need a lawer??
any idea on cost???
i am in the east end gta any one know a good cheap lawer if i need one??
when we go to meet at the timmies what should i say to them and how should i word it??
i have been with this girl for 2 years we have a son that is 4 months.
me and the girl lived together for 1.5 of the years we have been together as soon as we found out she was preg and when she told her parents... well they went nuts....
they came right over with bags for her to pack and never even banged on my front door they just walked right in and told her to start packing...
thru the 9 months of preg she was not aloud to come over to see me or anything..we are both 21yo i have my own place
so i found that kinda wierd....
so the baby is born.... i got to the hospital before her parents.... when her parents got there they did not want me there ... they even went thru the trouble to get a secuity officer to come to the room to ask me to leave but i had already had my bracet put on by the hospital stuff showing that i am the father... her parents lied to thesecuity officer and told him that i was not the father and that i was a EX boyfriend that will not go away....
well after i freaked out cus i did not sleep for almost 2 days at this piont and the secuity officer put the cuffs on me cus i freaked. my girlfriend freaked on her parents and the secuity officer and then told the secuity officer that i am the real boyfriend and the father of the kid so the secuity officer took the cuffs off...
that was 4 months ago.....
the baby and my girl friend live at her parents cus i did not have a job when the baby was born cus i was layed-off from my job a week before...
well i have been working now for a month and a haft and got my rent all payed off and bills payed off.. so i still have my own place....
so earlyer this week me and the girlfriend talk about her and the baby comeing over for the weekend and she says sure ...
she and the baby come over and everything is going good till about 45 min ago...
my girl friend starts crying like a baby and tells me that she told her parents that she was comeing over here for the weekend and they freaked on her. told her that i am a no good for notting father. and they got in to a huge fight and she just left and came over here...
so i tell her that maybe she should call her mom and talk..
she calls and her mom says that she is gonna call the cops and tell the cops that i am beating my son unless my girlfriend and the baby go back to her parents place right this second...
sorry guys i will try to shorten this
well her parents show up at my door again about 45 min ago and demand that she and the baby go with them..... i say no i am the father and i want to spend time with my son..
they say ok then we will call the cops and tell them that i am beating the kid...
i almost lose it again cus this time they say that to my face...
i am holding my son and her mom comes over and trying to grab my son and i say no get off me and my son in a yelling voice her mom slaps me in the face and then says that she is calling the cops i told her to go for it cus i have the hand print on my face...
so the cops get here and ask what all happend i told them the truth but her parents said that i was beating the kid that is why i was slaped...
so that cops were gonna put the cuffs on me and then my girlfriend tell the cops the truth about what really happend...
the cops dont put the the cuffs on me and ask if i want to press charges on my girlsfriends mother......
i said no cus i know it would cus more problems then what it is worth...
so the cops ask that i let my son go back with my girlfriend and her parents and that we meet up at a timmies or some thing to talk everything out....
in the 4 months that my son has been born i have only seen him a few dozon times.. pretty much use to go over after work and stuff to see my son when my girlfriends parents where not home... well now her mom stays home all the time so i am not aloud over....
i think all this is cus i am a german and they are from poland and some thing about hitler and all that crap...
i think that i am gonna go to the courts to get spilt custidy of my son...
and breaking it off with my girlfriend and her family
how do i go about doing that.......????
do i need a lawer??
any idea on cost???
i am in the east end gta any one know a good cheap lawer if i need one??
when we go to meet at the timmies what should i say to them and how should i word it??
09-01-2006, 11:13 PM
#3
Fak dude, the parents are so in the wrong based on this side of the story. 21 years old, they have zero legal right to make the daughter go anywhere. You need to press the charges as what she did was wrong and apparently she thinks it is alright to do so. Sounds like she is the one wearing the pants in that family. I would have dropped her on the spot. Hit me and you are going to pay dearly and I don't care who you are. What if she had something in her hand when she hit you and damaged your eyesight?
You have rights as a father and if the mother of the child wants you in her life and the childs life, that is her choice and your choice. Her parents have zero choice. Man the FAK up and proceed with the charges against her. Show the parents that you are here to stay and they can get with the program or lose their daughter and grandchild.
Two sides to every story dude, I am sure there are things left out as well. Definitely proceed on the charges and definitely seek legal counsel. You must act now on this at the same time for every day that you delay is a day that they get to build a stronger defence based on child abandonment. You were the one sitting back doing nothing about getting any kind of custody at all........get off your butt and do it. This should be the single most important thing in your life right now.
You have rights as a father and if the mother of the child wants you in her life and the childs life, that is her choice and your choice. Her parents have zero choice. Man the FAK up and proceed with the charges against her. Show the parents that you are here to stay and they can get with the program or lose their daughter and grandchild.
Two sides to every story dude, I am sure there are things left out as well. Definitely proceed on the charges and definitely seek legal counsel. You must act now on this at the same time for every day that you delay is a day that they get to build a stronger defence based on child abandonment. You were the one sitting back doing nothing about getting any kind of custody at all........get off your butt and do it. This should be the single most important thing in your life right now.
09-01-2006, 11:46 PM
#4
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ok thanks guys... but has any one gone thru thius before and what is all involed..
i dont know yet if i wanna press charges.. i will have to think what is best for my sons future i dont care that she slaped me yes if it was her father he would be eating from a tube but that would make things even wourse....
i dont know yet if i wanna press charges.. i will have to think what is best for my sons future i dont care that she slaped me yes if it was her father he would be eating from a tube but that would make things even wourse....
09-02-2006, 12:21 AM
#5
So, there are no voilent female offenders in Canada? Give your head a shake or perhaps get your best friend to give you a smash to the head to clear things up for you. This is crystal clear. You are getting the shaft. It is not alright for her to hit you. Your very words are telling me that you lack the ability to deal with the most important thing in your life, perhaps she has already won then? It is not alright for her to enforce her wishes on her daugher and grandchild against your rights. What if this lady is the one that wears the pants and is violently aggressive towards her husband and was / is aggressive to her kids. What if she beat her kids growing up....and now she has her hands on your child. Man school called and they said your graduation papers are ready. Take care of business that must be taken care of. Take care of the charges and show her that you mean business and your child will be taken care of on your terms, not hers.
The best things for your sons future is for you to be the best dad you can and it needed to start the day that you chose to bring a child into this world. You have sat back long enough. No more candy a$$ pansy I don't know about this and that kind of attitude. Time to me a man and be dead fricken serious about things. This is your child you are talking about here. Go hit your head against the wall until it knocks some sense into you. You posted here for a reason dude, if you need help with this, do not be scared to ask for it. It is not embarrasing, it is life and life just came up and bit you square in the junk.
I don't have the answers that you need, I have advice from a much older perspective than your 21 years. Perhaps other people will have different advice and perhaps it will change if different aspects of the story unfold here. You need some help with this, go get it before it is too late. Start by pressing the charges. If you do the entire story goes before the court and the court may indeed help you get the legal aid that you require.
The best things for your sons future is for you to be the best dad you can and it needed to start the day that you chose to bring a child into this world. You have sat back long enough. No more candy a$$ pansy I don't know about this and that kind of attitude. Time to me a man and be dead fricken serious about things. This is your child you are talking about here. Go hit your head against the wall until it knocks some sense into you. You posted here for a reason dude, if you need help with this, do not be scared to ask for it. It is not embarrasing, it is life and life just came up and bit you square in the junk.
I don't have the answers that you need, I have advice from a much older perspective than your 21 years. Perhaps other people will have different advice and perhaps it will change if different aspects of the story unfold here. You need some help with this, go get it before it is too late. Start by pressing the charges. If you do the entire story goes before the court and the court may indeed help you get the legal aid that you require.
Last edited by MR2NR; 09-02-2006 at 11:00 AM.
09-02-2006, 10:47 AM
#6
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well i thought about it all last night and yes you are right just becuase she is my girlfriends mom does not give her the right to come in to my home and do what she did..i will be going down to the courts tuesday to press charges..
and also to see about getting spilt custidy cus me asking to see my son does not get me anywhere so maybe a judgement of custidy will help...
i am just so mad that all this will come down to haveing to take her and her family to court
and also to see about getting spilt custidy cus me asking to see my son does not get me anywhere so maybe a judgement of custidy will help...
i am just so mad that all this will come down to haveing to take her and her family to court
09-02-2006, 12:00 PM
#7
i would not use your time to get mad !
do what you must
you need to show that her mom/dad are not safe and it is in your best to get 50%50% time with your son or full 100% of the time
if her mom is willing to hit you what do you think she will do to your son !
do what you must
you need to show that her mom/dad are not safe and it is in your best to get 50%50% time with your son or full 100% of the time
if her mom is willing to hit you what do you think she will do to your son !
09-02-2006, 12:49 PM
#8
i fully agree with pressing charges as her parents have absolutely nothing to do with this....and the way i see it are essentially retarded.
My questions is where does your gf stand on this? Does she not stand up for you half the time, or not care or what? Are you two planning to stay together or, gonna get 50/50 custody and just share the kids...or is she gonna get her act together and go live with you again or what?
My questions is where does your gf stand on this? Does she not stand up for you half the time, or not care or what? Are you two planning to stay together or, gonna get 50/50 custody and just share the kids...or is she gonna get her act together and go live with you again or what?
09-02-2006, 01:33 PM
#9
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to be honest i dont know what is gonna happen with me and her.... she tells me that she sticks up for me but i dont think that is the truth.... i think that her mom wears the pants and tells her when and how to wipe her *** and with how many squares of *** wipe to use....
i dont know i still have a lot of thinking to do
i dont know i still have a lot of thinking to do
