I Agree relationships are all different, and geting help on here would be disasterous!!!

 

Anyway guys,
yes I call her and we msn all day long.
I even see her and my little one via the web cam.
It's all good just i guess it's a bit much being home the entire day.
Last night she went out for 4 hours and i was happy to take care
of the little one, I'm always willing.
Tonight she is going out shopping so again i'm home having a blast with
my girl.
Anyway consider this thread done with unless someone else wants to put in some comments.

 

And these are the type of people that make me sick. Such irresponsibility. I feel bad for the children in this. When you're with someone make sure that that's gonna be the person you're forever with that you can tolerate them and that having children is right for both of you. Because later down the road a divorce is more devastating(sp) than you may think on children. It's not fair to them, just remember when you make the decision to leave it doesn't just involve you and her, it involves everything you made from the beginning.

Just disgusting ...

I would agree 100% on this one.

Cutra - It's good that you talk to her then because it is rather different from her perspective. Have no idea how you receive the short end of the stick though if you constantly keep contact with her. Dunno man.

 

^ but by the sounds of things, the balance was on the women involved... if he would have stayed with either of them who is to say anyone would be further ahead... ??? who is to say the final result would be any different ???

I probably should have left my ex long before she broke up with me...




Anyway- I could say alot, but I might suggest that if the issue comes up again Cutra.... you suggest she look for a job that can support the familly while you stay home and raise the kids.... make sure you insist that she still helps with some house work in her free time, because it really is a lot of work (snicker)... Alternativly, request that she get a part time job on weekends or nights while you watch the kids....... That way you are both working 'full time'

Don't forget that 1/2 of what she earns at that job belongs to you

 

Well, thanks everyone and especially Haunz for the suggestions and comments.
The best balance in this for me will be shopping so I think I'll buy myself something like a new amp heheh.

P.S. she actually is working once a week part time so i'm finding out how that goes, so far so good.

it's all good.
to the comment of one post, people change quite a bit in their lives or actually more accurately their true colors surface after years of being together with someone, so when we do get together with someone be it in a relationship or marrige we do this with the information at hand.
So we hope that things stay the same and only get better. Sometimes that works sometimes it doesn't.
I try and make the best of it.
Just my last two cents.

 

Nah my only concern was their decision to go down the road of having children. IMO be absolutely sure before you go down that road because the future will effect them as well. That's all.

 

[QUOTE=Blinddemonz]And these are the type of people that make me sick. Such irresponsibility. I feel bad for the children in this. When you're with someone make sure that that's gonna be the person you're forever with that you can tolerate them and that having children is right for both of you. Because later down the road a divorce is more devastating(sp) than you may think on children. It's not fair to them, just remember when you make the decision to leave it doesn't just involve you and her, it involves everything you made from the beginning.

Just disgusting ...



Buddy you have no idea ...the first one was a total money hungry bitch that would go to welfare when i was out of town working and tell them that I just up and left so she could get more money....guess who had to pay it back? ME!!! nuff said she is gone don't need that as far as the 3 girls we are always in touch and they know what their mom is all about and that I am not a deadbeat becouse they get their money every month on time ...not like the numerous dead beat dads out their.
2nd one ...it was her choice to leave not mine and I pay for my son as well and have him "every" day after work and on weekends as well....so these kids are not sufering jessus I pay out $880.00 every month for my kids so how is this disgusting?????? please tell me!

 

i must say this blows my mind to! but good for u Yuli, this is the same thing that i was thinking. to grow together u have to change and adapt. give a little take a little. i have been with my wife for 7yrs and all i have to say is it is like 10X better than when we got married!

 

I would like to see this discussion opened again in 10 yrs and see just what blinddemonz's comments are then....you are still in school man so you have bairly even tasted life....lol

 

^i would kinda like to see ur comments when u realize blinddemonz is a female.