Do you know someone that doesn't know when to end or minimize there hobby?
11-05-2004, 02:37 AM
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The only part I am knocking down on is that fact he has no ambition *sp* to do anything else. Obvioulsy we are 2 differnt people cause I would find it be damn disrespectful to "bounce" as you say from a buddies wedding, family gathering them happen all the time a wedding doesn't welp for most people all the time. For for a hobby giving a goal when your've reached the goal be satisfied with it, I hate to be the poor sap 50 years old have nothing to show except your know 30 year old "hobby" people don't care about. Sounds like a great f'in lifestyle can't wait to check it out in my next life.
11-05-2004, 03:20 AM
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^^^Thank you. I guess my beef is I don't see why someone would not wan't to move on in life? but rather stay living in a past life that made you accepted by others, and by past life I mean back when you where 18/19/20 pretty sad when you need a hobby to get people to accept you. My hobby use to be screwin with computers but I grew out of it and found other interests cars, car audio and now I am into home audio being in 1 hobby for an exaterated amount of time to me is boring not to mention your never going to get anything back out of it satisfaction can get you only so far.
Or say you have an exaterated hobby, but also move on in life as well get that career or that college degree, girl friend/fiance whatever it is just dont stick with 1 thing for the rest of your life. If your good in that area capatlize on it try to make it into a business that way you get to do what you love and will get some sort of outcome out of it and will look like your progressing in life instead of a stand still.
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Or say you have an exaterated hobby, but also move on in life as well get that career or that college degree, girl friend/fiance whatever it is just dont stick with 1 thing for the rest of your life. If your good in that area capatlize on it try to make it into a business that way you get to do what you love and will get some sort of outcome out of it and will look like your progressing in life instead of a stand still.
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11-05-2004, 05:02 AM
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ChizzerZ24 - I'm with you all the way on all the points above. As to when to minimize or end your hobbies - stuff like kids, family stuff should always come before a show. I have no problem not going to the show if my wife (or kids) have a problem with it.
Remember, your family comes first (ALWAYS). I have two kids (7 & 6) and was into car audio much more earlier in my life. I still love doing it and get out to shows as much as I can (as much as I can is the key word). As for your friend not being able to show to your wedding rehersal because of a show - that's just plaing f***ing low. Looks to me shows mean more to him that having a relationship with you.
Crap, I'm over 30 now, I love my wife and kids and would never do anything to jepordize that. !!! Good luck on April 26 !!!
I can't believe some people saying that family dinners are " TOO ****ING BORING!!!!" - Yuli - no, I'm not trying to dis you.
Remember, your family comes first (ALWAYS). I have two kids (7 & 6) and was into car audio much more earlier in my life. I still love doing it and get out to shows as much as I can (as much as I can is the key word). As for your friend not being able to show to your wedding rehersal because of a show - that's just plaing f***ing low. Looks to me shows mean more to him that having a relationship with you.
Crap, I'm over 30 now, I love my wife and kids and would never do anything to jepordize that. !!! Good luck on April 26 !!!
I can't believe some people saying that family dinners are " TOO ****ING BORING!!!!" - Yuli - no, I'm not trying to dis you.
11-05-2004, 05:10 AM
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^^^Thanks, least a few people see my points and views yeah he didn't actually bail on me but just the fact he even asked pissed me off inside that's how you know your to damn obsessed. I totally agree with you Mark that's how I see life to be everyone else comes first then you enjoy yourself on spare time "yourself" came first all the previous years before getting involved, once your involved there is no "yourself" you have other to be considerate of and support. Granted I am only 25 and have alot ahead of me, I just feel I have my feet well planted compared to others I know. My wife it totally cool with all I do, she's always got the "do whatever you want" attitude which at times I do, but she likes to hear nah I will stick home with you today or we will do something together. You get that equal balance and in the end it all works out for both partners.
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11-05-2004, 05:39 AM
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totally different thing there IMO of course if you got a wife and kids they come 1st you chose to enter a relationship such as that then now you got responsabilities
but the dude has no kids, lives at home ect ............. if he's as obsessed with his car/hobby as you say any girl should realise this from the start .......and if she doesn;t accept or like that then maybe she shouldn't waste his time being with him I hate chicks who date a guy and then decide that they'll just change him
and I don't see a problem with sticking with one hobby if he loves cars as much as you say what's the problem it's obviously something he really enjoys I know guys in their 60's who still build hot rods and spend many hours of their time doing it
I know one guy at work in his 50's who's into dirt bike's and he gets a hard time from guys at work all the time whenever he gets a new bike, they keep telling him he's to old for that crap ........... WTF
again it's his life ....maybe he's got no problem with not having a girl friend and living at home.
as far as the wedding thing .... well if he committed to being there, then he better be there ........ I woulda just said I couldn't do it right off the bat and let you get somebody else if I had things to do......
but the dude has no kids, lives at home ect ............. if he's as obsessed with his car/hobby as you say any girl should realise this from the start .......and if she doesn;t accept or like that then maybe she shouldn't waste his time being with him I hate chicks who date a guy and then decide that they'll just change him
and I don't see a problem with sticking with one hobby if he loves cars as much as you say what's the problem it's obviously something he really enjoys I know guys in their 60's who still build hot rods and spend many hours of their time doing it
I know one guy at work in his 50's who's into dirt bike's and he gets a hard time from guys at work all the time whenever he gets a new bike, they keep telling him he's to old for that crap ........... WTF
again it's his life ....maybe he's got no problem with not having a girl friend and living at home.
as far as the wedding thing .... well if he committed to being there, then he better be there ........ I woulda just said I couldn't do it right off the bat and let you get somebody else if I had things to do......
11-05-2004, 05:59 AM
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I respect your opinoin as you stated before each there own, I guess if you want to be some what of a loser and hiding yourself behind your car then go nuts not my cup of tea, I am not comparing to me per say wife/kids. It's called preparing yourself for the future so you have a sold foot on the ground, true the girl knows ahead of time but still there a point where you have to draw the line. It's called having respect for others if you try and pull this " I was this way before ya found, and I will be this way after bullsh!t attitude" then to lonely hood ya go sounds fun.
11-05-2004, 06:01 AM
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Originally posted by Chadxton:
I know of a 50+ year old dude that drives a heavily boosted Dodge Ram....oh wait a minute here.
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I know of a 50+ year old dude that drives a heavily boosted Dodge Ram....oh wait a minute here.
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